Love Perservering
Week 11: Winter Abernathy - 16 February 2022 [10:07am]
Isn't it interesting how much power people have over us? I remember an idea I read that was about our souls, what if we truly do have souls and everytime we breathe out, we breathe out a part of our soul. And when we breathe in, we breathe in the souls of those around us, making us quite literally a whole of the parts of those around us.
Now in a less theoretical sense, I don't know where to put this arbitrary knowledge. I still know my childhood best friend's favorite fruit by the foot flavor, and his sisters middle names, I still remember my other used-to-be friend's opinion on love languages and his favorite flowers and I still remember the song that would always put my baby cousin to sleep when she was 6-weeks-old As we get older and relationships fade, where do we put those weeks, months, years of knowledge? I don't want to forget, so they sit filed away in cabinets with varying amounts of dust and every now and then, almost as a destructive depressing spiral I pull them out.
I remember old messages and videos and peoples' parents' favorite songs and I grieve for people who are still out there because where do I put this? Where do I put this love, this testament of love, because what is love if not entirely knowing someone and when they go, either in an explosive rage or a silent fade, who do I give it to? What is grief if not love persevering?
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Hey Winter! I am glad to see a WandaVision reference, especially one that has been incorporated so well into a meaningful medium. That aside, I think that friendships are beautiful because they don't last, and so the memories from them can be held as a token of proof that there really is beauty out there in a relationship, simply waiting to be found. Having moved many times, I have tons of memories of people who I know I’ll never meet again, but I find that keeping them in my heart, even if they don’t, is the best way to honor that relationship which I had with them.
ReplyDeleteHey Winter, the question of where that love you described goes after the person being loved leaves is a really pondering question. Personally, I believe that these memories and love we hold for those no longer with us should still be kept within us. They should be remembered, as those relationships we had held with them will be memorable parts of our lives that we will hold with us forever. If we forget these memories, it will be as if we do not want to remember them, and they will slowly fade into the unknown. Thank you for raising such a mind-pondering question.
ReplyDeleteHi Winter, this post made me kind of sad, as I've been recently thinking about how when we graduate and go to college, we will lose many of the close relationships we have at the moment. I have known my closest friends since I was small, and people say that we practically came out of the womb together. Other friends, I have met more recently but I still have lots of fun with. With all of these people come amazing memories, and I am afraid that that will be all that is left of them when everyone moves on with their lives after high school. It is the bittersweet nature of relationships, and it teaches us to cherish our connections with others while we can.
ReplyDeleteWinter, this blog post was beautifully written. I, personally, believe that we should carry the memories of our dearly departed acquaintances. We experience and share bonds with these people as a way to carry their presence and life even if they are still not here. My dad never met his mother because she died in childbirth and after his mother’s death his grandmother raised him. My dad was raised around his mother’s brothers and sisters and through them he was able to learn about who his mother was. Without those memories and experiences, my father would have no idea of who his mother is. So yes, I do think we should save the memories of the people we have loved or women in the past.
ReplyDeleteHi Winter! This was such a beautiful post to read, and the sentiments you captured really resonated with me. It is really sad to think of friendships we used to have that faded away, being left with knowledge of them and thoughts of your memories that just drift with nowhere to go. Grief really is just love persevering, and I relate to your pulling them out when you are sad. I kept birthday cards from friends I got months and years ago, and I like looking back at them when I feel sad or stumbling upon the folder after a while and recalling fond memories. All relationships will never last forever, and I think it is both beautiful and sad that we continue to remember details and favorites about them even after we no longer see them. We really are just a whole of the parts around us, as the people we have met always shape us, in some way or the other.
ReplyDeleteHey Winter! The future is a scary thing, but one we will eventually have to face. While I’m not sure what will become of my current relationships and acquaintances, I know that I will cherish them for as long as possible. But the beautiful thing is that we never stop making relationships and more memories will come, hopefully for the better. Amidst the age of social media, connecting and staying in touch shouldn't be too difficult, so hopefully we can continue to cherish the relationships we have made and will continue to make in the future. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteHey Winter, “What is grief, if not love preserving” is a really powerful line and I agree with that sentiment. I believe we should put this persevering love into cherishing those memories. What’s so beautiful about building relationships and bonds with others is they can keep forming, so while we definitely should continue to cherish and save those old memories, we can also continue to make more memories with those around us right now. Indeed, it is important to treasure the present relationships you have with others. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteHi Winter, it's sad to hear that you’re no longer friends with the people you still care about, and I’m currently experiencing a similar situation, however, I think it’s okay to cherish the memories and understand that circumstances change over time. This leaves room for new friends and people to make new memories and share your love with. Hopefully this helps to deal with the uncertainty you’re facing and thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteHi Winter! I also have a whole bunch of random facts stored in the back of my head, buried deep under, and sometimes, in the most awkward times, this information will surface to my consciousness. On the other hand, I struggle to remember recent things like what I had for dinner last night. I find it sad every time I feel like I forget something because I feel like it is a part of my life that I will never get back. This is why I started journaling so I can keep a record of my life and maybe look back at the good memories in the future. Thank you for sharing!
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